You’re Not Broken. Your Brain Works Differently.
ADHD is a scientifically validated brain difference that comes with unique strengths worth recognizing.
But that doesn’t mean everything is fine or that you don’t need new skills. You do. We all do. The difference is this: when you build those skills from a place of understanding and self-acceptance rather than shame and self-blame, they actually stick.
Here’s what I know from my own journey: You can’t thrive by rejecting how your brain works. I tried that for decades. The strategies I desperately needed only started working when I stopped believing I was fundamentally flawed and started understanding how my brain actually works.
Your brain works differently. Your strategies should too.
I know what it’s like to work twice as hard just to appear competent. To constantly worry that others will eventually notice how much effort it takes to stay on track. To blame yourself for struggling with skills you were never taught. And to feel confused by how you can be confident and capable in some moments, yet easily overwhelmed in others.
For a long time, I believed I was fundamentally flawed. Learning to understand and accept that my brain works differently, not wrongly, changed everything. Instead of trying to force myself into systems that didn’t fit, I began building strategies that aligned with how I actually function. By acknowledging real challenges while also recognizing genuine strengths, I found approaches that were not only effective, but sustainable.
That’s what I want for you.
My approach in a nutshell is to help you:
- Understand how your brain works – Notice patterns, tendencies, and triggers that shape your thinking and behavior
- Identify what’s in the way – Clarify the habits, beliefs, and obstacles that create friction or keep you stuck
- Uncover your unique strengths – Recognize the traits and capacities you can intentionally work with and build on
- Build strategies that fit – Create routines, systems, and approaches that align with how you actually operate
Everything I do is grounded in the belief that meaningful, lasting change comes from understanding, curiosity, and self-acceptance, not shame or self-blame.
My approach blends:
- Lived experience – I’ve navigated distraction, difficulty getting started, losing track of time, feeling scattered, and the quiet self-doubt that comes from trying to hold everything together. I understand how frustrating and isolating that can feel.
- Evidence-informed coaching – My work is grounded in established coaching principles and ongoing learning focused on what genuinely helps people change how they relate to themselves and their challenges.
- Coaching experience and professional perspective – My background in engineering and business means I’m comfortable with complexity. I help clients break things down, make sense of patterns, and design strategies that are clear, realistic, and adaptable.
- Radical honesty – I reflect what I see with care and clarity. No sugar-coating, and never shame.
- Deep compassion – For the grief, frustration, resentment, and mixed emotions that often come with this work. This isn’t toxic positivity. It’s honest acceptance.
I believe:
- ADHD reflects a difference in wiring, not a deficit
- Traits that create challenges can also become strengths in the right context
- Strategies must fit your actual brain, not an idealized version of you
- Skills develop more effectively when built on understanding, not self-criticism
- Progress isn’t linear, and that’s normal
- Small, sustainable changes matter more than dramatic overhauls
This works best if you’re:
- Ready to better understand how your brain works and how ADHD may show up for you
- Tired of generic advice that doesn’t translate into real change
- Looking for practical systems and strategies, not talk therapy
- Willing to experiment, reflect, and adjust without expecting perfection
- Open to seeing differences as something to work with, not eliminate
- Interested in building skills from self-acceptance rather than self-criticism
If you’re ready to stop fighting yourself and start working with how you actually function, I’d love to talk.